Gentle etching
My child is changing places with me. Her first nerves awaken my jaded awareness. First license. First unfixable sob, soon. Each transition a tip toe into doorways. Learn to say […]
Comply – a poem in my father’s voice
I don’t tremble they assume I’m Katherine Hepburn’s kind but she and I will always have our Parkinson’s mask of frozen stares. My shuffling gait halts yet refuses my wife […]
Ballast
My father and my daughter sailing summers ago on a Catamaran in Anna Maria Island, Florida. My father was what I’d describe (and he’d humbly hate) Soave Bola; Ricardo Montalban […]
Black pastors and the gay community: moment of impact
In the process of deciding what God is for us, whether as an unwavering faith to the literal Word or we’re drawn to the Divine as felt through our own filter; […]
The Dragonfly and I: The Mystical Symbolism of an Ancient Insect
I’ve been drawn to dragonflies the last two years. Vast symbolism behind this beautiful ancient winged-creature has appeared across continents and cultures. Bugs and I have a largely innocuous relationship, […]
What I need to say before you read that essay
Please excuse the brief detour before you read my xojane essay, “Why I Won’t Go to Male Gynecologists Anymore.” I need to offer a disclaimer. When I published the essay […]
Aging out loud
A few weeks before every birthday I try to get used to my upcoming age. I say the number out loud and slip it into conversation. Last year I said, […]
I’m one drop Italian and so, Italian.
I’m Italian-American, only one-quarter Italian, one drop. But that’s all we need to decide who we are, one drop. “… Barack Obama has become the most high-profile personification of the […]
You are enough
All of us it seems, have two voices in our head. The critical nudge who insists we’re never enough, that we find a new job or new relationship or lose […]
Holiday patience. Have some.
I heard a radio host talking the other day about how we all need to be patient during the holidays. He said essentially, listen, everyone’s in a rush, everyone’s trying […]
Jesus and Jello
Image credit: Wikipedia Excerpted from my essay “Jesus and Jello” I was raised with a la carte religion, a buffet line of a little bit here, a little bit […]
God, Guns but No Gays? My Letter to This Kentucky Business Owner
Image: Wikimedia Commons I just sent this email to this Kentucky business owner. I’m HORRIFIED his family received death and rape threats for his store policy, but I’m also […]
